You’ll never walk alone

Be different. Do different things. People will judge and criticize you regardless of what you do. You can live your life like everyone else, living in conformity to their dreams, but life’s just too short for that. Nothing else will matter when you truly put yourself all in for your own dreams. Failure is what most people fear and getting past that is what will make you try harder. I don’t think you can force yourself to be different, it’s more a matter of allowing yourself to think differently.

Normal is boring. It’s uninteresting. To me, normal spans those people that don’t say what they mean but then wish they did. It spans those that don’t fight for what they want because they don’t believe they have what it takes to win, then realize that they lost their only chance. On the flip side, those that push themselves, grow from their mistakes - an opportunity forgone by people unwilling to bet on themselves.

Obviously you can’t fight every battle nor put everything on the line whenever something important is at stake. The battles you pick, coupled with the principles you adhere to, shape your character. Sometimes not caring about what others think makes these decisions so much clearer.

Be direct about what you want. I can only think of two reasons for why you would’t: worrying about what others will think about you, or leaving things vague enough that if they don’t work out then you can leverage the uncertainty of your actions to mitigate any potential consequences of the down side. Both excuses are perfectly normal.

I understand that those that accept to live other people’s dreams are numerous, and that’s okay, but there are plenty that know that we live in a society that provides everything we need to make our own dreams come true. We can do so much more. We can lead.

8 years ago  /  2 notes

School: Leechers

I hate giving my notes away. My assignments too. I’m not worried that it’ll be given to others without my permission or that someone will find a way to use it against me. It’s because it’s mine. To me, a person unwilling to put in the effort I did, expecting me to let them benefit off my hard work, is someone that expects to take advantage of me. Ain’t happening.

Two exceptions. The first, a good friend that knows that you know they’d do the same for you. The second, someone not in direct competition with you, whom has already shown enough sunk effort to motivate you to help.

Giving away someone’s work without the owner’s permission is unimaginable to me. Merely asking me for someone else’s work rewards you with a single outcome. Every spec of respect, vanquished. Nag me over it, and you’d best not expect any friendship going forward.

“Work smart, not hard”. Those whom I relate to best, know that in relation to my little rant, putting in the effort is always a given. Working efficiently is working smart. Focusing too heavily on the latter component, might mean you’ll never get it.

8 years ago  /  3 notes

Complications

I can’t be sorry, always. I can’t always apologize. My actions have never intended to hurt nor upset someone close. Mistakes happen. Sometimes too many to sound plausible.

I figured I’d always learn and grow from my mistakes. However, as things continue to unfold, I’d do almost anything to have certain actions undone. That’s not practical, and making sure those mistakes are never repeated doesn’t fix anything. With that, I’m stuck.

The impact on others caused by the foreseeable consequences of my actions, is what I’ll regret. As for the rest, I can’t always be sorry.

8 years ago  /  2 notes

Paradoxical Pridicament

I used to think that somehow all the pieces would come together and everything would be like it used to be. I really believed that that would happen. Clearly now, it will never be the same.

Some people dwell in past memories, but isn’t the point of living to make new ones? To have new experiences? As the pieces move further and further apart, I’m forced to deal with an ever-present reality. Change is inevitable. Whilst torn between abandoning hopes I’ve held onto for years, and taking a new path, how would someone make a decision like that based on limited intel. Plus wouldn’t our emotions cloud our judgement, preventing us from making sound judgements? Such a decision can not be left to chance.

Here’s my question. If you had something so good, and wanted it back so bad, but could never get it back, is it worth trying to recreate it over and over again or let the memory rest? After all, life’s too short to give up anything so easily.

10 years ago  /  1 note

Relentless Reflection / Irrefutable Change

Sometimes it’s good to reflect. At a point when you can stop to look back at everything you’ve been doing, somehow you learn so much about how and to what extent you’ve changed. We’re all constantly changing and based on who we hold dear and the activities we continue to undertake, we are able to map this change for ourselves.

Every now and then everyone stops to think hmm should I make that all important change in my life that could potentially outweigh the gains in a realistic worst case scenario. Sometimes, you’re put in a position where the situational demands wear you down, leaving you in a predicament where you know the change is inevitable so you make stalling your top priority. Why would anyone accept to change their lives so seemingly drastically only for a potential gain. In such a situation, stalling before you absolutely have no choice but to put the change into motion appears to be the most logical. A battle between instincts and well thought out rational versus the desire to not have your optimism shattered. Pieces can be collected and put back together but the glass would never look the same.

10 years ago  /  1 note

Don’t be a Poser

Posers come in two main types. The first one is where people give an impression that they can do something that they can’t. These are people who take pleasure in topping other peoples’ stories and love being the center of attention. The second type is where someone takes more than enough credit for something they’ve done. If you have an idea, and someone else extends the idea, it’s no longer yours! If you’re doing a group project and your group member helps you develop an idea for the part of the project delegated to you, then sure, it’s reasonable to take full credit for your part. In that case it is implicitly assumed that the group helped each other. No explicit acknowledgement needed.

Don’t front. It’ll never last. It’s necessary to temporarily change your perceptions to quickly adapt to new environments but it’ll never last. People never change. Once a back stabber, always a back stabber. Be who you are. But be the best person you can be. We all have our vices. Learn how to be an asset. No one can make you do anything. Sometimes it feels like you owe someone something but no. You don’t owe anyone anything. It’s your life. Accept it. Embrace it. Make it your own.

10 years ago  /  1 note